Do you leave your door unlocked? Do you invite strangers into your house and show them your most prized possessions? Do you bring them a re-usable bag, and help them load it up with your favorite things, walk them to the door and even smile and wave as they drive away? Most people hearing this say "Heck no, what are you talking about, why would I do that?"...
But I think lots of us do. Many of us give away our happiness on a pretty regular basis. Whether it is saying yes when we really mean no, accepting a person's harsh words as the truth, or interpreting a car cutting us off in traffic as being personal, we allow ourselves to be robbed.
This post is likely irritating a lot of people right now, cause hey most people would rather not point out that there is choice in feelings, especially negative ones, and that you can choose to give something weight or release it. But if this post is really pissing you off, consider this for a moment, right now am I robbing your happiness?? Why let me?
I don't want to be a hypocrite, so I am totally going to own this as well. I let myself get robbed at times. I struggle with allowing other's opinions of me to shape how I feel at times, and have a hard time saying no. So, sometimes I give away my happiness, and it sucks. But my awareness of this helps me to not so freely just give it up to anyone, and to embrace that if I am feeling resentful it is my choice, and I can choose to do things differently next time, or even change my choice now.
I have several clients that get robbed on a daily basis, but so much of what they give away has to do with what they choose to focus on. Yes, maybe that person behind them in the grocery line gave them a weird look, but seriously was that look about them? Maybe that person really had bad gas, and was hoping to get through the line quickly, maybe they had just had a fight with their spouse, maybe they really DID give you a look, but seriously should that look ruin your life? Should we continue to give away our power to someone that we don't even know? Yes, this is the more extreme end of things, but when we don't have awareness of our choices in our feelings they tend to rule us.
Yes, there are things in life that suck, and I don't want to devalue the power that attending to your feelings can have. Today I just want to acknowledge and recognize that we have power. We can choose to give our power up, or to hold on to it, and choose happiness, and sometimes that choice is really hard. But when you really think about it, there is a whole lot in life that is good, and continues to be good, even when we are in a robbed state. So today, take a moment and recognize that happiness is a choice, and even though it is hard, today I encourage you to make the choice that isn't aways easy.. choose joy.
But I think lots of us do. Many of us give away our happiness on a pretty regular basis. Whether it is saying yes when we really mean no, accepting a person's harsh words as the truth, or interpreting a car cutting us off in traffic as being personal, we allow ourselves to be robbed.
This post is likely irritating a lot of people right now, cause hey most people would rather not point out that there is choice in feelings, especially negative ones, and that you can choose to give something weight or release it. But if this post is really pissing you off, consider this for a moment, right now am I robbing your happiness?? Why let me?
I don't want to be a hypocrite, so I am totally going to own this as well. I let myself get robbed at times. I struggle with allowing other's opinions of me to shape how I feel at times, and have a hard time saying no. So, sometimes I give away my happiness, and it sucks. But my awareness of this helps me to not so freely just give it up to anyone, and to embrace that if I am feeling resentful it is my choice, and I can choose to do things differently next time, or even change my choice now.
I have several clients that get robbed on a daily basis, but so much of what they give away has to do with what they choose to focus on. Yes, maybe that person behind them in the grocery line gave them a weird look, but seriously was that look about them? Maybe that person really had bad gas, and was hoping to get through the line quickly, maybe they had just had a fight with their spouse, maybe they really DID give you a look, but seriously should that look ruin your life? Should we continue to give away our power to someone that we don't even know? Yes, this is the more extreme end of things, but when we don't have awareness of our choices in our feelings they tend to rule us.
Yes, there are things in life that suck, and I don't want to devalue the power that attending to your feelings can have. Today I just want to acknowledge and recognize that we have power. We can choose to give our power up, or to hold on to it, and choose happiness, and sometimes that choice is really hard. But when you really think about it, there is a whole lot in life that is good, and continues to be good, even when we are in a robbed state. So today, take a moment and recognize that happiness is a choice, and even though it is hard, today I encourage you to make the choice that isn't aways easy.. choose joy.
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