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Mastery

10/26/2010

There are moments when I think I am a complete genius. Seriously, as in I think about it, and I think I could not be any smarter than I am right now... other times not so much, but there are those moments.

It can be about something small, but having a moment of mastery, can be very encouraging.

Mastery is something I work a lot with during interactions with clients, and it is highly underrated in the way most people look at it. It can be as simple as effectively planning a schedule, asserting yourself in a fast food line, recognizing that the mistake you just made is not the end of the world or even just keeping that one pesky hair back in the bobby pin all day. There are many things we as humans can master.

Other moments are not so good, there are times when it feels like we can't do anything right, everything is hard, and that danged hair just won't pin back. But those are the times when it is best that we've built up a mastery in other areas. Really it may sound small and obvious but doing something well builds confidence, and at a moment when nothing feels secure having small successes means a lot.

So, today focus in on what you're good at, especially those little things that we don't even think much about... like bushing teeth, making breakfast, or not yelling at a customer when they are being rude. Things you likely already do but haven't acknowledged much in you life. Really just take a moment and say - 'I did really well just now at not farting in public', or whatever it is. You are likely a master in lots of things, take a moment and delight in your abilities!

Shifting X

10/4/2010

Social ecologist, Peter Drucker, one said "The best way to predict the future is to create it". I strongly agree with him. Everyday, we make choices.

Healthy choices and unhealthy choices. Regardless they are ours to make even when it doesn't feel like we have much within our control.

Recently I've been thinking a lot about balance, mostly my need for more of it in my life. I keep thinking once x is over (in my case x has an actual date and lots of prep work involved) then, I can do y and z again. Or once x is over I'll be able to do y easier. The truth of it is if y were easy, I'd already be doing it. Yes, x is a valid excuse and one I will continue using until the x is over.. but the harder truth is that I am not nurturing what I want to grow in my life right now. I'm not nurturing it with my actions but more damaging is that I'm not nurturing it with my thoughts either.

Not only do y and z take time, energy, resources and desire, they also take the right attitude. So, no x has not happened yet, so I won't be focusing on balancing (in action at least) but until then I'm working on shifting my attitude, just a little bit, not too much... but a shift so when there is opportunity to make time energy, resources and desire to do y and z that my mind will be ready to embrace them (and not just feel exhausted from x).

I'm guessing you likely have a y and a z as well, so my question is what is your x, and is there a way to shift how your looking at it, feeling about it, or thinking in a little way to make y or z a little easier?
One of the little ways I've been changing my attitude is by changing my expectations of y and z, cause even though I'm not close to them yet, I still have expectations (you know cause that seems helpful,...wait a minute...maybe it's just human, not helpful). Anyway, I'm doing what I can now to nurture the y and z that I believe in, and therefore step one inch closer to the future I want. I create it, so it might as well be something I want. Right?

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