So, how do you set boundaries and get the love, care and respect you deserve? More importantly, how do you get your boundaries respected and honored by those around you?
One way the odds of the boundaries you set being respected goes up is by being overt. Whoow, scary concept I know. But actually letting people know your boundaries so they can have an opportunity to respect them, is more likely to meet both of your needs. One big catch about setting a boundary out loud is that first you need to define your boundaries.
To set boundaries first determine what you want. At times it is easier to think of what you don't want and then flip it to find out your desire. I.e. I don't want my family staying a week (I want them to stay 3 nights at most), or I don't want him to call me by the nickname I had in grade school (Suzie) (I want him to call me by the name I enjoy and identify with more (Sue)).
Then find a gentle way to communicate the boundary, that transfers both love and respect to the person you are setting the boundary with, but still allows you to be heard.
*Because Boundaries are so very important, and create a good foundation in every relationship, this is part 1 of a series on boundaries. Please tune back to in to read more in the future on how to set boundaries and have your boundaries respected. For additional insight about how to set Boundaries check out a great book by Cloud & Townsend's book: Boundaries.